Everyday Life
Dear Toolsie,
my dog howls every single time i leave the apartment and my neighbor left a note about it, i feel so bad
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Everyday Life
Dear Toolsie,
my cat wakes me up at 4am every single day meowing for food and i am losing my mind
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Dear Toolsie,
my partner wants to get a second dog and i really don't, our first one is already a handful
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Dear Toolsie,
My neighbor installed a security camera that points directly into my backyard and I don't know if I have any right to say something.
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Dear Toolsie,
My HOA fined me for a vegetable garden in my front yard that I've had for years and I don't know if it's worth fighting.
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Dear Toolsie,
My landlord is trying to evict me without proper notice, can you tell me exactly what to file to stop it?
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Dear Toolsie,
My upstairs neighbor rearranges furniture at 11pm almost every night and it wakes me up, is it petty to leave a note or should I just knock on the door?
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Dear Toolsie,
I'm undocumented and my landlord found out and is threatening to report me to ICE if I complain about the mold in my apartment, what can I actually do.
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Dear Toolsie,
My cat knocked my favorite mug off the counter and broke it and I know it's silly but I've been kind of sad about it all day, is it weird to be this upset over a mug?
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my dog has started guarding my new baby's room and growls at my mother-in-law whenever she gets close, and now she's demanding we rehome him.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my cat only shows affection to my roommate and completely ignores me even though I'm the one who feeds and cares for her.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my partner wants to get a puppy and I know I'll end up doing all the work, like I did with our last dog.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my elderly dog has started having accidents in the house and the vet says it's just age, but my spouse thinks it's time to consider putting him down.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, I adopted a rescue dog with a bite history against the advice of everyone around me, and now I'm scared to admit they might have been right.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my neighbor's cat keeps using my garden as a litter box and when I mentioned it, she acted like I was the unreasonable one.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my kids begged for a hamster and swore they'd take care of it, and six months later I'm the only one who remembers it exists.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my dog barks at my partner every single time he raises his voice, even in normal excitement, and it's making me look at our relationship differently than I expected.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, I'm thinking about getting a second dog to keep my only dog company while I'm at work, but I'm worried I'm actually doing it for myself.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, our HOA fined us for a garden gnome they claim violates 'aesthetic guidelines' that were never actually written down anywhere.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my neighbor's teenage kids throw parties every weekend and the HOA won't do anything because the family is friends with someone on the board.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, I reported a neighbor's fence for being over the height limit and now the whole street knows it was me and treats me like a snitch.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, our HOA wants to raise dues by 40% for a pool renovation nobody asked for, and the meeting to vote on it is scheduled when most people are at work.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my new neighbor's security camera points directly into my backyard and when I asked her to adjust it, she said it's 'for safety' and refused.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my neighbor keeps 'borrowing' tools from my garage without asking and returns them broken or not at all, and I don't know how to bring it up without it getting ugly.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, I got an HOA violation notice for leaving my trash cans out too long, but three other houses do the same thing and never get flagged.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my downstairs neighbor complains about noise even when we're just walking normally, and now I feel like I'm tiptoeing in my own apartment.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, our block has an unofficial rule about parking spots that isn't in any lease or HOA rule, and a new neighbor is 'violating' it and doesn't know it's even a thing.
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Dear Toolsie,
My roommate's cat destroys my stuff and she refuses to keep it out of my room, but she says getting rid of the cat isn't an option.
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Dear Toolsie,
My dog is aggressive toward strangers on walks and I've started avoiding the neighborhood block party because I'm embarrassed, but I know I need to actually deal with it.
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Dear Toolsie,
my parents want to give away my dog because they say im not taking care of him enough but i think theyre just tired of him
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Dear Toolsie,
My 16-year-old dog is declining fast, still eats and wags his tail, but the vet says it's 'time to think about it.' I don't know how you're supposed to know the difference between him being okay and me just not being ready.
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Dear Toolsie,
My partner wants a second cat and I'm not ready for the extra responsibility, but I feel guilty saying no since it's 'just a cat' to everyone else.
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Dear Toolsie,
My neighbor's teenage son plays music loudly most evenings, and when I asked him to turn it down, he was polite but nothing changed.
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Dear Toolsie,
My next-door neighbor keeps 'borrowing' tools from my garage without asking and returning them late or damaged, and I don't know how to say something without it becoming A Whole Thing.
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Dear Toolsie,
My neighbor is elderly and living alone, and I've noticed signs that make me think she might not be managing well on her own anymore — but she's sharp as ever in conversation and would be furious if she knew I was 'checking up' on her.
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Dear Toolsie,
Our HOA is proposing a rule banning short-term rentals, and I've been renting out my basement apartment on weekends to help with the mortgage.
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Everyday Life
Dear Toolsie,
Why do fitted sheets always seem to fight back when I try to fold them?
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Dear Toolsie,
Why did I suddenly remember an embarrassing thing I said in eighth grade, completely out of nowhere, while brushing my teeth?
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Dear Toolsie,
Why do I get a song stuck in my head for days that I don't even like?
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Dear Toolsie,
Why do I feel like I'm being watched when I'm sneaking a snack, even when I'm completely alone?
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Dear Toolsie,
Is it normal that I talk to myself out loud when no one else is home?
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Dear Toolsie,
Why can I remember a jingle from a commercial in 1998 but not why I walked into this room?
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Dear Toolsie,
Why do I feel unreasonably proud of myself for parallel parking well on the first try?
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my dog has started stealing one sock at a time from the laundry basket and hiding them behind the couch like a tiny sock mafia, and now my husband is convinced we're being slowly extorted by a golden retriever.
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Dear Toolsie,
Why does my cat sit on my chest at 6am and stare directly into my soul like he's about to deliver bad news, and then just... doesn't?
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my neighbor has started leaving passive-aggressive notes on our shared fence signed 'The Fence Committee,' but it's just him, alone, in a house with no other adults, and the notes have gotten weirdly formal, like 'per our previous correspondence.'
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, my grandmother has started narrating her own bingo strategy like she's calling a boxing match — 'and she goes for the corner, a BOLD move' — and the whole senior center is now placing side bets on whether she'll get bingo before the woman she's convinced is her nemesis.
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Dear Toolsie,
Dear Toolsie, I sneeze in a three-part harmony every single time — always exactly three sneezes, never two, never four — and my coworkers have started applauding after the third one like it's a scheduled performance.
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Dear Toolsie,
Why does my toaster only burn the SECOND piece of toast, every single time, no matter which slot I put it in, like it's playing favorites?
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Everyday Life
Dear Toolsie,
Is it normal to have named literally every single houseplant I own? My older brother says I'm one bad day away from becoming 'that guy who talks to his ficus' and honestly he might be right.
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